For our last post on ‘clarity’, we wanted to introduce you to a simple exercise that will help you identify your values by analyzing your past experiences. This exercise is quite interesting -even fun- and despite its straightforwardness, we thought it can also be powerfully introspective – revealing things about yourself that you might not know or even think about. So this exercise will get you to spend time reflecting on your life to begin uncovering your true values.
There are a total of ten prompts to help get you started but for this mini-blog, we’ll be shedding light on four. But before we start, let’s clarify what ‘value’ is. Values are what you deem to be important and how you see the world and little did you know, they strongly drive our behavior – mostly subconsciously! With that out of the way, let’s start!
Begin by making a list of:
1) The top things where you spend or put your money towards. Analyzing this will obviously be quite revealing; the fact that you spent money on x shows how much you value it that you are willing to financially sacrifice for it.
2) What dominates your space that might be obvious to a stranger. For e.g. when a friend enters your room and they take note of how coordinated and colorful your room is. Then maybe order, organization and artistic expression are your values.
3) Where you are the most disciplined and reliable. When you’re doing something you are not passionate about, you give little to zero commitment to it. When it’s the opposite, you give it your all and you enjoy taking it from a to z. Even though ‘disciplined’ and ‘reliable’ can imply something serious, it doesn’t have to be! it can be trivial to others but as long as it’s something you take seriously, then that alone is notable enough and worth taking note of.
4) When you get most annoyed. The first three are aspects that you gravitate towards but this part is also important and informative: what you veer away from. If a person chewing gum or wearing casual clothes to an interview annoyed you, then professionalism could be part of your values.
These are just the four aspects to make a list out of and even from these four, you can see a pattern of what you value and who you are. And once that is identified, you can align yourself towards these values. From here on out, your life will start to feel more natural and ‘right’ – you stop fighting against your essence/nature and be more in your element.
This exercise is taken from the third module of Lisa Ibrahim’s online course ‘Empower YOU’ which you can enroll here